Play with Yourself!

So, when you hear the word ‘Masturbate’ most people think oh yes play and knock the top off.  Many times, the word ‘masturbation’ is used as a derogatory, such as ‘you wanker’ or ‘go toss off’.  There are also many people who just won’t talk about it nor admit that they do it very often even to their partner.  There’s still alot of taboo around this and even when Im in a Consult session I hear guys say often ‘oh I once did it alot but Im taking a break from it, I don’t think it’s good for me or healthy’  I call BS on this …. and let’s clear one thing up … there is nothing wrong with touching yourself.  Play away!  In saying this there are some unhealthy habits that most people have fallen into.  I want you to ask yourself … If masturbation is training for the bedroom …. Q. How is it helping you?  Are you simulating the real thing? Are your current habits helping you when you are intimate with another?

Maybe change the way you look at this … Self Pleasure rather than Masturbation.  View it as a practice to becoming a better lover, and change things up.  For one, don’t just unzip and play with your genitals, rather play with your whole body (its most likely is become numb to your own touch over the years) then your sex centre, top of your thighs, hips, groin, into your sit bone, building up sensations closer and closer to your genitals.  It creates more blood flow which = more pleasure.

It’s a slower process without pressure to be hard straight away and especially if you add some mindful breathing and add in different types of breath to get the energy flowing, add some movement of your hips and some sound to ease the mind. Ok easier said than done however, starting today change things up … the way you go about it all.  I have many tips and tricks I could recommend just for you and based on whats happening for you and happy to give you an assessment at a Consult.

Self Pleasure is not all about the end goal, no need to release but rather to enjoy the journey.  Moving the energy around your body is such a divine feeling, another blog on this some other time.  To not release every single time, can be hard as most of us are wired to chase the release to go straight to the primal and there is nothing wrong with this but if it is all that you know well … take it from me you are missing out!  All over body orgasms are a real thing!  Wanting to learn more … Coaching can help CLICK HERE to get in touch with me learn some new ways for more pleasure and to be a better lover.